I haven't always been an open book. I lived with anxiety, obsessive compulsive and panic disorders for almost 40 years, and hid them behind destructive perfectionism, people-pleasing and over-achieving.
I also hid my bouts of depression, disordered eating and drinking and suicide ideation. On the outside, I appeared to have the perfect life – Ivy League and law school graduate, attorney at a prestigious law firm, new husband, new house, even a new dog.
But on the inside I was unraveling more every day. None of the success or accomplishments could give me the peace and freedom I desperately needed.
I managed my anxiety while the walls of my box closed in around me, until my fear of never fully living became stronger than my fear of dying. That’s when I took charge of my mental health and started rewriting a story that wasn't dictated by my diagnosis. Through self-examination and discovery, meditation, reparenting, exposure therapy and lots of writing, I found my freedom and chronicled that journey in my book - The Box: An Invitation to Freedom from Anxiety.
I've built a life beyond my dreams and I can help you do the same.
In 2022, I was diagnosed with Stage 2 colon cancer. It was brutal and beautiful.
I had been living two lives - growing my legal practice and my wellness platform. This diagnosis gave me permission to pause and pivot out of a 24-year career and into my passion. I founded CAVE Club on the couch while recovering from chemotherapy and never looked back!
I went from a 6 year old hiding in a cardboard box, to a Dartmouth co-ed recruited to throw the javelin, to a lawyer closing multi-million dollar social impact and public welfare investment funds, to cancer survivor and beyond.
“I admire Wendy tremendously for courageously sharing her story, her book and her meditation skills not only with my firm, but with the broader legal community. For someone so outwardly “together” to express her vulnerability is remarkably courageous.”
“It's hard to put into words how impactful and inspiring Wendy's story is. She possesses a rare combination of vulnerability, strength, and eloquence. Her ability to articulate her own struggles resonated deeply, creating an immediate connection that made the entire audience feel understood and less alone in our own battles.”
“I cannot emphasize enough how much I respect Wendy’s bravery and courage to share such a personal journey. It will benefit so many and I can’t thank her enough for being a role model and change agent. The world needs more inspiring people like her!"
AT A GLANCE
Writing this book was where I put the pieces of my puzzle together. It's where I found and saved myself.
My husband calls me "Love." Pure and simple.
I've been an athlete my entire life, so becoming a "coach" seems fitting. But we're not building a team, we're building a life!
I COULD BARELY SIT IN THE AUDIENCE TO WATCH OTHERS PERFORM ON STAGE (I'D STAND IN THE BACK BY THE DOOR WAITING TO PANIC) SO TO BE UP THERE SPEAKING TO HUNDREDS OF PEOPLE IS BEYOND MY WILDEST DREAMS.
I USED TO THINK I WAS EITHER FULL OF FEAR OR COURAGE. NOW I KNOW THERE IS NO COURAGE WITHOUT FEAR. THE MORE AFRAID I AM, THE MORE COURAGEOUS I BECOME.
I became a lawyer to fight for "truth and justice." I have the tattoo to prove it!
What wakes me up each day is sharing the treasures I've collected along the way. Exposing your limiting beliefs and expanding your vision of what you are truly capable of. Redefining your worth and value, reinforcing your right to set boundaries and protect your peace, and reintroducing you to the authentic power that has been buried under years of stress, perfectionism, and cultural stigmas that keep you silent and small.
“I am grateful that I found this gem of a book and I am already applying what I have learned to my life.”
self care is not selfish!